![]() ![]() "So instead, they'll settle for focusing on tasks to support the relationship," she continues. Additionally, she says, the emotionality of the deep connections they crave can be too vulnerable at times. Weaknesses: However, explains Hall, Threes can get so focused on a task that they forget to take care of their relationships. "Their belief that anything is possible can be really inspiring for their partner," says Hall. ![]() Strengths: Type Threes are known to be charming, engaging, and driven, and they put 100 percent into everything they do - including their relationships. Known For: Being adaptable and motivated. "They neglect their own needs and they end up in a cycle of giving to get, in which they love or help as a means to receive the same in return." This can also actually be very manipulative, because it sometimes causes Type Twos to shift who they are to be more loveable to someone else.įranckreporter/E+/Getty Images Enneagram Type Three: The Achiever Weaknesses: As with many people, Type Twos' weaknesses are their strengths in overdrive, says Hall. Type Twos tend to be conscientious and considerate, and they often "give people that warm, fuzzy feeling because they are able to make people feel really at home and welcome." So, they're very invested in making sure their connections are positive and fulfilling for both people. Strengths: Hall explains that Type Twos are very focused on making sure their partner feels loved and seen, because deep down they want to feel this way themselves. "That can also cause them to feel some insecurity, or it might leak out as them condemning those around them." Enneagram Type Two: The Helper Another challenge Hall describes is that Type Ones often have a critical inner voice. That can lead them to be preachy or condescending to their partner. Weaknesses: However, they're also susceptible to rigid thinking, and tend to view their way of thinking as the only correct way, says Hall. ![]() "They're often focused on becoming the best version of themselves because they can always see room for improvement." Because of this, they're thoughtful and sincere in their relationships. "They hold tightly to their convictions and tend to be led by an inner sense of purpose," she says. Strengths: According to Hall, Type Ones value integrity and honesty, and they look for that in a partner as well. Known For: Being diligent and industrious. So with the help of Hall, TZR broke down some of the motivations, strengths, and weaknesses of each one. Of course, all of that understanding starts with learning about the different types, so that you can use the necessary information to inform your actions and inner work. "So just being aware that somebody else is a different Enneagram type from you will help you kind of meet them where they're at." "Knowing that you have a certain motivation that is driving you underneath helps you to realize that somebody else probably has a different motivation," continues Hall. It also allows you to better understand your partner. "What part of yourself were you protecting? What ways are you maybe not aware?" "What was underneath that for you?" asks Hall. In situations where, for example, you get into a fight with your partner, you'll be better equipped to break down what went wrong. One, again, is that knowing your Enneagram type can help you understand yourself. ![]() This can be especially helpful when it comes to relationships for a few reasons, explains Hall. Because the system is about breaking down core motivations (of which there are nine), it can be used as a tool to help people understand themselves better, work on personal development, and find more empathy and connect with others. It's just that, rather than deciding who's right for you based on type, you should use Enneagrams to help you grow in awareness - of both yourself and others. "I think that healthy people work well with healthy people, or people who are working towards growth." However, that doesn't mean that you shouldn't consider the strengths and weaknesses of Enneagram types in your relationships. "My opinion overall is that any type can work with any type there's no such thing as 'the most compatible' types," Steph Barron Hall, certified Enneagram coach and author of The Enneagram in Love: A Roadmap for Building and Strengthening Romantic Relationships, tells TZR over the phone. If you know anything about the Enneagram system, you're probably already aware that the tool shouldn't exactly be used as a compatibility scale. ![]()
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